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A man who worked at an aviary in a bird park went to an outdoor wedding. He kept looking up until a friend finally asked him why. The man replied, “Sorry, I’m used to looking up to avoid falling bird ...

I grew up in church. However, this church was part of a denomination that avoided mentioning the Holy Spirit whenever possible. Our denominational leaders treated Him a bit like the crazy uncle who sh...

A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.”

A day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.”

“Laws of silence don't work.... When something is festering in your memory or your imagination, laws of silence don't work, it's just like shutting a door and locking it on a house on fire...

“My sister having so much to do, was going to church vicariously, that is to say, Joe and I were going.”

Avoidance doesn’t solve anything; it merely serves as a temporary salve.

Compassion literally means to feel with, to suffer with. Everyone is capable of compassion, and yet everyone tends to avoid it because it's uncomfortable. And the avoidance produces psychic numbin...

The avoidance of pain is the beginning of all unhealthy behavior.

When we truly need to do is often what we most feel like avoiding.

Neurosis is the natural by-product of pain avoidance.

Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch.

“There’s nothing simpler than avoiding people you don’t like. Avoiding one’s friends, that’s the real test.”

One’s own heart can be foreign territory, a terra incognita, and this lack of at-home-ness with oneself generates our propensity to run. We still can’t find what we’re looking for because we don’t kno...

Even with the desire for a better life, we can be reluctant to do the work of boundaries because it will be a war. The battle falls into two categories: outside resistance we get from others and the r...

People who blame things rarely change things. Blame is an unassailable change-avoidance strategy.

Running away from a problem only increases the distance from the solution. The easiest way to escape from the problem is to solve it.

People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.

Being a Christian is less about cautiously avoiding sin than about courageously and actively doing God's will.

Pastor: Brothers and sisters in Christ, as we gather on this Thursday of Holy Week, let us humbly draw near to the Lord to remember what He has done and to receive what He gives to us by His Word an...

John O’Donahue, in his book, Walking in Wonder, shares a story from India that is thousands of years old, but just as relevant today as it was back then. It’s about a man who was forced to spend a nig...

Emotional intelligence does not mean merely "being nice". At strategic moment it may demand not "being nice", but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfort...

What’s the difference between avoiding pain and seeking appropriate comfort? I have a friend who says, “The first episode of my favorite TV show is soothing. But if I’m watching the fifth episode in a...

Pushing aside emotions only makes them stronger.

I imagine that one of the reasons that people cling to their hate and prejudice so stubbornly, is that they sense that once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with their own pain.

Leader: God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. People: If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth. Leader: But if we walk in the light...

Great and gracious God, we have run after things and others instead of coming home to You. We have lived as though we were the centers of our universe. We have avoided the harder issues in life so o...

Social scientists define procrastination as “delaying a task for a maladaptively long time,” and it bedevils almost all of us. One study found that more than 70 percent of university students procrast...

“It’s not denial. I’m just selective about the reality I accept.

A typical response to threat and burden is to want to flee it. It’s evacuation as the cure for trouble. If only I could get away is our mantra. Then I would be safe. Then I could enjoy my life. But wh...