Striving for excellence versus striving for superiority. Striving for excellence means striving to become better in some regard, to improve, or at least not to get worse, especially as we age; it is striving to be better than myself. Striving for superiority, in contrast, is striving to be better than someone else, which can range from being better than my sibling, neighbor, or school friend to being better than anyone living, even to become the GOAT—the greatest of all time. As I understand them, these are two crucially different strivings.
The Cost of Ambition: How Striving to Be Better Than Others Makes Us Worse, (Brazos Press, 2025)