Relational congruence is the ability to be fundamentally the same person with the same values in every relationship, in every circumstance and especially amidst crisis. It is the internal capacity to keep promises to God, to self and to one’s relationships that consistently express one’s identity and values in spiritually and emotionally healthy ways. Relational congruence is about both constancy and care at the same time. It is about both character and affection, and self-knowledge and authentic self-expression. Relational congruence is the leader’s ability to cultivate strong, healthy, caring relationships; maintaining healthy boundaries; and communicating clear expectations, all while staying focused on the mission.
Adversity is hard to endure, and can even be harder to understand. If God were really in control, why would He allow the tragic auto accident or crucial job loss? How could He permit cancer in a loved one or the death of a child? Grappling with His concern for us we ask, “Why is God allowing this?” or “What have I done wrong?
Harry Emerson Fosdick
Life asks not merely what you can do; it asks how much can you endure and not be spoiled.
A pure heart won’t get us out of conflict and controversy. It may well be the very thing that gets us into it.
You know the adage “People resist change.” It is not really true. People are not stupid. People love change when they know it is a good thing. No one gives back a winning lottery ticket. What people resist is not change per se, but loss. When change involves real or potential loss, people hold on to what they have and resist the change.
A friend cannot be known in prosperity. An enemy cannot be hidden in adversity.
If you have no opposition in the place you serve, you’re serving in the wrong place.
Character is always lost when a high ideal is sacrificed on the altar of conformity and popularity.
Before any great achievement, some measure of depression is very usual.
Adversity is not simply a tool. It is God’s most effective tool for the advancement of our spiritual lives. The circumstances and events that we see as setbacks are oftentimes the very things that launch us into periods of intense spiritual growth. Once we begin to understand this, and accept it as a spiritual fact of life, adversity becomes easier to bear.
When we are crushed like grapes, we cannot think of the wine we will become.
Jimmy Dugan (Tom Hanks)
“It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard is what makes it great.”
A League of Their Own
John of Kronstadt
Our faith, trust, and love are proved and revealed in adversities.
Mildred Witte Struven
A clay pot sitting in the sun will always be a clay pot. It has to go through the white heat of the furnace to become porcelain.
Bits and Pieces, September 19, 1991, p. 6.
Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.
A person that never climbs will never fall.
Of all the virtues we can learn, no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.
These periods of struggling to overcome challenges are what people find to be the most enjoyable times of their lives. A person who has achieved control over psychic energy and has invested it in consciously chosen goals cannot help but grow into a more complex being. By stretching skills, by reaching toward higher challenges, such a person becomes an increasingly extraordinary individual.
When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.
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