Impostors draw their identity not only from achievements but from interpersonal relationships. They want to stand well with people of prominence because that enhances a person’s résumé and sense of self-worth. One lonely night in the Colorado Rockies, I heard this message:
Brennan, you bring your full presence and attention to certain members of the community but offer a diminished presence to others. Those who have stature, wealth, and charisma—those you find interesting or charming or pretty or famous—command your undivided attention, but people you consider plain or dowdy—those of lesser rank performing menial tasks, the unsung and uncelebrated—are not treated with the same regard.
This is not a minor matter to me, Brennan. The way you are with others every day, regardless of their status, is the true test of faith.
Brennan Manning, Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging, (NavPress, 2015)