Sermon illustrations


Charlie Chaplin Look-a-Like Contest

In 1975, several years before his death, Chaplin entered a look-alike contest of himself in France. He probably thought he was a shoo-in for the prize and everyone would have a hearty laugh at the end. But then he came in third.

Source: Newsweek.

Christian Love: the Antithesis of Envy

The Christian’s self-understanding is that she is precious before God—however much a sinner, however much a failure (or success) she may be by the standards of worldly comparisons—and that every other person she meets has the same status…This vision is not only one that levels every distinction by which egos seek…glory…This vision, when appropriated, is also the ultimate ground of self-confidence.

For the message is that God loves me for myself—not for anything I have achieved, not for my beauty or intelligence or righteousness or for any other “qualification,” but simply in the way that a good mother loves the fruit of her womb. If I can get that into my head—or better, into my heart—then I won’t be grasping desperately for self-esteem at the expense of others, and cutting myself off from my proper destiny, which is spiritual fellowship with them.

Robert C. Roberts, Spirituality and Human Emotion (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1982), 69. See the updated chapter in his Spiritual Emotions: A Psychology of Christian Virtues (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2007).

Comparison is Self-Focused

Perhaps the greatest irony in the life of continual comparison is that while it involves so much attention to the attributes and gifts of other people, it’s actually quite self-focused. From that hypercritical focus on one’s self comes the tendency to believe things about God and others that aren’t true but are highly formative. The myths we believe shape our approach to life.

Taken from Mythical Me by Richella J. Parham Copyright (c) 2019, p.33 by Richella J. Parham. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com

Crisis Intensifies our Search for Wisdom

A life-threatening crisis came to my home when I was only 25. My wife suffered a near-fatal stroke and was rushed to the hospital, where doctors scrambled to keep her alive. Within hours, we were making decisions that face families countless times, every day. Our options included surgery, medical treatment and prayer. To make matters worse, two doctors adamantly called for two radically different courses of action. One proposed immediate surgery, while the other warned that immediate surgery would be the worst of all options.

Both said my wife might die if their course of advice wasn’t taken. A third doctor solved our dilemma by arranging a course of treatment acceptable to both of our first two doctors, and within a few months, that course of action proved to be the right one. Looking back on that time, the comparison is almost too much to comprehend. On Wednesday, my most difficult decision was what to choose for lunch. On Thursday, I needed to make a life-saving decision for my wife! Needless to say, crisis intensified our search for wisdom.

Andy Cook

Fighting Constant Comparison with Platitudes (Does not Work)

I searched for guidance on how to combat the problem of constant comparison. I found that well-meaning teachers sometimes addressed the topic, but their advice usually ran along these lines:

  • “You shouldn’t compare yourself to others, for you never know the truth about anyone other than yourself.”
  • “You can’t compare yourself to anyone else, for you are one of a kind.”
  • “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
  • “You are God’s creation, and God made only one of you.”
  • “People are like snowflakes; no two are exactly alike. So you can’t compare yourself with anyone else!”

All this advice might be true and wise, I know. Sometimes it encouraged me; other times it just irritated me. The worst part was that it didn’t help.

Taken from Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison by Richella J. Parham Copyright (c) 2019, p.9 by Richella J. Parham. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com

Gardenias & Shasta Daises

Recently, I was working in my yard when the blooms on my gardenia plant caught my eye. I took off my gloves, laid my clippers aside, and allowed my mind to linger on those flowers. Inhaling the intoxicating perfume, marveling at the intricate way the buds unfolded to create the bloom, and fingering the waxy leaves, I could feel myself relax as I stood there, entranced by the beauty of the flowers.

Close to the gardenias grew some Shasta daisies, one of my mother’s favorite flowers. Maybe it’s just that my mom loved these blossoms so much, but something drew me to ponder them as well. Unlike gardenias, Shasta daisies don’t boast a beautiful fragrance; actually, they’re rather stinky.

And daisies are not nearly so intricately formed as gardenias. Instead of tender petals that unfold delicately, they consist rather simply of spiky white petals rounding a yellow center. Yet daisies stand proud and tall, exuberantly reaching for the sun. Meditating on the intricacy of the gardenia and the cheerfulness of the daisy touched my heart.

It occurred to me that the flowers don’t struggle with comparison. The gardenia doesn’t mimic the daisy, nor does the daisy aspire to be like the gardenia. They both shine forth as testimonies to the God who created flowers, the God who loves beauty and longs to bless all parts of his creation. Together they make even my backyard a place of refreshment for the soul.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote,

And every common bush afire with God.

but only he who sees, takes off his shoes—

rest sit ’round it and pluck blackberries.

Taken from Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison  by Richella J. Parham Copyright (c) 2019, pp.106-107 by Richella J. Parham. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com

The Perfect (Mythical) Woman

In her excellent little book (Mythical Me), Richella Parham begins by describing a single event that led to a personal journey into addressing her struggles with comparison. Having recently moved to a new neighborhood, Richella was invited to a Bible study. When she came home, she began describing all the wonderful characteristics of the women she had met that evening:

“Belinda is so kind and friendly. I wish I had her sense of humor.” “I wish I could be more like Ann. She’s incredibly organized.” “Boy, it would be nice to be like Shanna—she’s so poised and beautiful! I wish I had her posture and carriage. Finally, my husband interrupted me. “Richella, you compare yourself with everyone you meet. You pick out the best attributes of each person and measure how you stack up against them. His words rankled, even as I realized that he might be right…but what my husband said next really stung. “You’ve created for yourself a mythical composite woman, and you think she is the standard you should meet. But that woman doesn’t exist.”

… “Well, of course, I notice their outstanding attributes. I have a great appreciation for people,” I defended myself. “But then you pick out each one’s greatest traits and assume that you should share those. You want this person’s kindness, that person’s poise, this one’s intelligence, that one’s sensitivity. And you do it with body parts too: you admire this woman’s face, that woman’s waistline, that woman’s legs. You determine each person’s strength and measure yourself against that strength, so you always come up short.

Taken from Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison by Richella J. Parham Copyright (c) 2019, pp.3-4 by Richella J. Parham. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com

Rosa Parks & Helpful Comparisons

Very often, comparison to an ideal is a helpful practice, not a harmful one. Helpful comparisons are those that place a normal or ideal condition on one side of a scale and a real-life condition on the other side, hoping to achieve balance. As Rosa Parks rode the bus day after day in 1950s Montgomery, Alabama, she compared the area of the bus where she and other people of color were allowed to sit to the rows where white patrons were permitted to sit.

That comparison fueled her discontent with a situation that needed to be changed. Finally, she summoned courage to defy an unfair law. Mrs. Parks’ action is just one example of this kind of comparison, which uncovers injustice and highlights the need for change.

Taken from Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison  by Richella J. Parham Copyright (c) 2019, pp.15-16 by Richella J. Parham. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com

Salary Comparison

A few years ago, students at Harvard University were asked to make a seemingly straightforward choice: which would they prefer, a job where they made $50,000 a year (option A) or one where they made $100,000 a year (option B)? Seems like a no-brainer, right? Everyone should take option B. But there was one catch. In option A, the students would get paid twice as much as others, who would only get $25,000.

In option B, they would get paid half as much as others, who would get $200,000. So option B would make the students more money overall, but they would be doing worse than others around them. What did the majority of people choose? Option A. They preferred to do better than others, even if it meant getting less for themselves. They chose the option that was worse in absolute terms but better in relative terms. People don’t just care about how they are doing, they care about their performance in relation to others.

People don’t just care about how they are doing, they care about their performance in relation to others. Getting to board a plane a few minutes early is a nice perk of achieving Premier status. But part of what makes this a nice perk is that you get to board before everyone else. Because levels work on two, well, levels. They tell us where we are at any time in absolute terms. But they also make clear where we stand relative to everyone else. Just like many other animals, people care about hierarchy.

Apes engage in status displays and dogs try to figure out who is the alpha. Humans are no different. We like feeling that we’re high status, top dog, or leader of the pack. But status is inherently relational. Being leader of the pack requires a pack, doing better than others.

Jonah Berger, Contagious: Why Things Catch On, Simon & Schuster.

Whose the Fairest of Them All?

In Disney’s Snow White, when the wicked witch stares in the mirror, she asks a basic question: “Who’s the fairest of them all?” It is a natural, human tendency to measure ourselves against others. But what if that mirror provides a cracked perspective?

How do we resist the temptation to define ourselves externally, via comparison with others, and instead develop an integrated self, content within our own parameters? Are there feelings of frustration and inadequacy burrowed into our psyche that we may not even be aware of?

Craig Detweiler, Selfies: Searching for the Image of God in a Digital Age, Baker Publishing Group, 2018, p.129.

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